Are trauma response a real thing?

 

You often heard people saying that they have childhood trauma and thats why they behave in a certain way. But the question is, are really trauma response exist? Because some philosophers and psychologist said that trauma does not exist. 

This is a conflicting topic, but today I realized one thing about me and I don't know whether it is a trauma response or something else, but what I discover today about myself compelled me to think more deep into this concept.

In my past relationship, I was whole heartedly surrendered  towards the other person and there was no such thing as my personal space and my priorities, but then when we broke up and I grew up I learned the importance of personal space and how it is related to self esteem. I am not blaming anybody here but in my past relation there were many times I felt that giving him priority and access to my personal space is not worth it because I got hurt and disrespected alot that time. 

Now after living alone for more than two years and respecting my personal space and my me time. I enjoy being by my own. 

So yes we were talking about trauma. 

The thing that ,when I had given someone my time and space I got disrespected and hurt, that gave me trauma. Now I cant even allow good people to enter that space, I am not only talking about romantic relationships, even I don't like my friends to interrupt my time or space. I just created a shield arround me, the protective shield and whenever someone try to enter it , I push them back. 

But this is not good in long run because I know I cant live like this always. I don't know the solution yet but today I realized this and thought that may be this is what a trauma response called. 

I'll surely write when i'll find the solution. 

Also you can comment down if you have a story of any trauma response and How you deal with it!